today i am sharing the strategies that have made the biggest difference to me in the past 2 years, since i started building a lighthouse instead of a biz. i hope they help you too!
music is a huge source of inspiration to me (as you may have noticed if you follow me on instagram where i share music & lyrics every week that fit the theme of my blog posts!)
often times a song will come on the radio and i can hear that there is a message for me there. other times i will be working on something and i hear a song in my head that fits perfectly.
are you a perfectionist? do you maybe have a bit of a perfectionist streak somewhere?
perfectionist: a person who refuses to accept any standard short of perfection.
it can come in to play in many ways in your biz, and it’s not inherently a bad thing. i think it is good to have high standards – to want to put your best work out there.
the trouble is when we don’t let ourselves put something out there if it is not perfect, or worse… if we measure our self-worth by an unobtainable idea of perfection.
it’s the whole “it’s not good enough/i’m not good enough” fear manifesting itself in our biz through perfectionism.
and it’s the stuff that can get in the way of you shining your light in this world. so what do you do?
last week i wrote about how this lighthouse building stuff is hard work sometimes.
this journey that we are on pushes us outside our comfort zone. we have to grow in ways we never could have predicted.
not only that, there is so much to learn, and so many jobs that need to get done.
some days it feels scary. some days it feels overwhelming. and some days it feels like you work and work and work and you just aren’t getting anywhere.
like you’re going in circles.
since i started focusing on building a lighthouse i’ve been on this crazy path.
i’m striving for clarity and purpose… i want to stand tall and shine my light in this world.
and that’s led me to authenticity, which has led me to vulnerability, which has led me to working on feelings of unworthiness, which has led me to shame, which has led me to fear.
not gonna lie, it’s hard.
in brene brown’s ted talk on the power of vulnerability she says that a strong feeling of love & belonging is what leads people to believe they are worthy. and i know that the struggle for worthiness is one that we all go through as we build a business… watch brene’s talk & grab the free PDF graphic
so i have to tell you this amazing story.
for years, i have been having this weird recurring dream. it’s not a dream in the sense that something actually happens and i can recall the dream afterwards. rather, it’s an intense feeling that i wake up with – a feeling that i have forgotten something or lost something really important.
in the little biz world we often talk about the perils of comparison.
i love this quote: don’t compare your behind the scenes to someone else’s highlight reel
but i think it is actually more complex than that – there are different ways we might compare ourselves to others, which can actually bring up some big stuff for us.